Systemic Family Therapy
Systemic or Family Therapy can help those in close relationships to better understand and support each other
Systemic Family Therapy enables family members to express and explore difficult thoughts and emotions safely, understand each other’s experiences and views, appreciate each other’s needs, build on family strengths, and work together to make useful changes in their relationships and their lives. Every family is a bit like a human body. Sometimes it feels great, and things work well. Sometimes even small things can feel like a huge challenge. When we hurt one part of our body, every part can be affected in some way. But all the parts of the body can work together to help if a bone gets broken, or if there is an infection. So systemic therapy helps family members to work together when something is hurting, or just feeling out of sorts.
It is not always necessary for the whole family to join sessions and different members may join different sessions at different times. It can be useful to initially spend some time with parents before inviting children into the space, although this depends on the focus of the work and the age of the child/children. All this will be agreed and discussed with the family at every session. Sessions typically last for around an hour, sometimes extending to an hour and a quarter if the time is needed.
Here are some of the things that a Systemic Practitioner might do with a family:
- Talk about each person’s hopes for their family.
- Encourage everyone in the family to talk about their experiences, and to listen to everyone else.
- Respect and clarify each person’s beliefs, values, needs, hopes and assumptions to help them understand each other better.
- Help families to avoid blaming each other and begin exploring how everyone can work together to make things better.
- Help people to understand the effect their words and actions have on everyone else in the family. • Explore what each person in the family does well, and what they are most proud of.
- Draw a kind of family tree, called a genogram, to help people think about the different relationships in their family.
- Help families to talk about the challenges they are facing.
- Support families as they work towards their own goals.